TAMMY KAY CHOW
Somatic Attachment Facilitator

I’m a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner devoted to helping people return to safety, belonging, and wholeness in their bodies and relationships.

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My work centers around attachment wounds, relational repair, ancestral healing, and restoring trust in your inner knowing and spiritual connection. While my foundation is rooted in extensive training, the heart of my work has been shaped by my own healing journey.

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I grew up in an alcoholic household where co-dependency, control, and enmeshment shaped my early understanding of love. There were no models for secure attachment. I learned to self-abandon, to stay hyper-aware of others’ emotions, and to shut down my own needs in order to earn love and avoid punishment.

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For more than a decade, I struggled with bulimia — something I later came to understand through somatic work as internalized rage, grief, and unmetabolized emotion. It was the only way my body knew how to feel the immense amount of energy I was holding. Healing invited me to stop fighting my emotions and begin listening to them. Over time, that rage transformed into my knowing and a deeper sense of safety and power in my body. That process fundamentally reshaped how I relate to myself — and how I now support others.

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My early relational experiences included sexual trauma within relationships I trusted, reinforcing betrayal wounds and unconscious patterns that followed me into adulthood. I found myself repeating familiar dynamics — mistaking chaos for connection, struggling to receive love, and feeling uneasy when things were calm. It took somatic attachment work to understand that these patterns were not personal failures, but adaptations from a nervous system shaped by early relational trauma and ancestral history. Over time and repeated choices, I learned to refine my "picker" and to choose love and relationships that were supportive to my life, rather than destructive.

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One of the deepest initiations of my healing was the mother wound.

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It shaped my self-worth and the way I saw myself. For years, I lived within the narrow parameters of who I needed to be for my mother’s survival. Stepping outside of that role triggered debilitating C-PTSD symptoms in my body.

Becoming myself did not feel safe.

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Individuating was a nervous system and attachment system reorganization. It required grieving the mother I longed for, releasing unconscious loyalty contracts, and tolerating the guilt and fear that came with choosing my own path.

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This journey gave birth to my group, From Mother to Ma, devoted to healing the mother wound and reclaiming your life from inherited roles.​