TAMMY KAY CHOW
Somatic Attachment Facilitator

I am a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner with a deep emphasis on attachment wounding, relational repair, ancestral healing, and the body’s innate capacity to return to safety, belonging, and wholeness.

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My work is informed by both extensive training and the hard-earned wisdom of my own healing journey. I grew up in an alcoholic household where co-dependency, control, and enmeshment shaped the blueprint for how I understood love. Without models for secure attachment, I internalized chronic patterns of self-abandonment, emotional shutdown, and hypervigilance that followed me into adulthood.

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For more than a decade, I struggled with bulimia — a symptom I later understood through somatic work as deeply internalized rage, grief, and unmetabolized emotion. As I healed, I learned to transform that internalized rage into expression, truth, and power. That transformation reshaped my relationship with my body and became foundational to the work I now do.

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My early relational experiences also included sexual trauma within relationships I trusted, reinforcing betrayal wounds and shaping many of my unconscious relational patterns. Healing these wounds required deep somatic, emotional, and spiritual repair — work that ultimately revealed a radically different way of relating, both to myself and to others.

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As I moved through adulthood, I repeated the dynamics I had witnessed growing up: mistaking chaos for connection, creating conflict when things felt calm, and struggling to receive love. My relationships mirrored my earliest wounds more than my deepest truth. Eventually, the emotional pain and physical symptoms accompanying these patterns led me to somatic trauma healing and the study of intimacy. Through this work, I came to understand that my patterns were not personal failures, but the natural expressions of an attachment system shaped by early relational trauma and ancestral history.

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My formal training began with Somatic Experiencing, which taught me the language of the nervous system and the physiology of trauma. I deepened into attachment repair through Dynamic Attachment Repatterning Experience (DARe) and the work of Sarah Peyton, whose teachings on the Broken Mother Field, the inner critic, and the legacy of perfectionism profoundly shaped my understanding of relational neuroscience.