TAMMY KAY CHOW
Somatic Attachment Facilitator
You’ve done a lot of inner work... therapy, mindfulness, contemplation.
You’ve learned how to understand yourself.
And now, you’re ready to live it.
To bring that awareness into relationships, community, and the world.
This is a space to practice courage, emotional honesty, and embodied leadership in community.
To explore what happens when you stay present with what’s real — even when it’s uncomfortable.
So...
What is REALational Alchemy?
REALational Alchemy is a somatic, relational process group where you’re invited to meet your edges in leadership, take risks in real time, and allow the intelligence of the relational field to transform fear, discomfort, and shadow into truth, power, and aliveness
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Explore the places you hold back in life, and learn to move that energy so it becomes fuel for presence and purpose.​
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Each session unfolds from what’s alive in you — and in the group.
​Through somatic awareness, expression, and relationship, we uncover what’s true beneath the surface and let it move through the body into new possibilities.
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This work is rooted in Radical Aliveness, Somatic Experiencing (SE), Dynamic Attachment Repatterning Experience (DARe), Emergent Constellations, Ritual Theater, and Eastern mystical traditions.
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Sessions may include:
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Somatic Processing
Shadow Work
Conflict Resolution
Archetype Embodiment
Ritual Theater
Constellation Work
Breathwork
The innate wisdom and knowing you bring into the group​
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You'll practice:
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Showing up authentically without needing to be perfect
Taking risks in how you speak, feel, and relate
Transforming triggers and projections into insight
Finding power in your emotions instead of being ruled by them
Staying grounded in your body through intensity and difference
Something to consider...
This is a space to meet each other in our humanity.
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We practice welcoming everything as fuel — including conflict, judgement, assumptions, projections, and what might be considered "taboo" as doorways to seeing each other more clearly.
In this work, you’ll learn to express your vulnerable history — the stories, pain, and experiences that shaped you — as power.
When these truths are felt and voiced through the body, you connect to your wisdom.
Your history becomes medicine — for you, and for the room.
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This work deepens as safety, trust, and intimacy grow over time. You are encouraged to stay through discomfort, to stay in relationship, and to see what transformation waits on the other side.
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Please commit to at least 3 sessions when starting.​​
Guided by the principles of Radical Aliveness:
Cultivating A Non-Shaming Heart and Attitude
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This is the place where we know and can see our own and others deep goodness and essence. A non-shaming heart creates a space where deep vulnerability feels safe to emerge. Here we know that any judgments we have, personally or socially, are ours to own and understand so that we can stand with others in our shared equality and humanity.
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A non-shaming attitude asks us to be aware that we have all been socialized and that we evaluate the world from a lens that we need to learn deeply about so that we can be open to seeing the things we have not been able to see before. Both the heart and the attitude of awareness are important to be able to hold a non-shaming space.​
Knowing I Don’t Know
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This means that I know I have a perceptual filter that is connected to how I was socialized and that it shapes the way I see things, the assumptions I make, and the things I value. If we are not aware that we have a perceptual filter, we will misinterpret what we see according to our own narrow perspective. We will also judge others’ ways of being based on our unconscious values.
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This is equally important in relationships when we work with people whom we assume are similar to us as well as people who come from different national and international backgrounds; we never truly know what is going on with another person. What we know is what is true for us. When we know we don’t know we become more open to the mystery that is in front of us, allowing life to be as big as it really is.
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Honoring Multiple Perspectives
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The first thing I need to do is to understand, name and validate my own perspective. When I know and proactively work on becoming aware of the ways I have come to perceive the world (perceptual filter) I can be open to other people’s experiences and perspectives that are not the same as mine. This doesn’t mean that one doesn’t have or cannot set boundaries, but when we do set boundaries, they are based on concrete verified information and an awareness and ownership of our own values.
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Understanding the emotional landscape of what happens when a boundary is overstepped helps us be with and negotiate differences (especially when feelings that are labeled as negative are expressed — such as anger, hate, and resentment).
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Being Willing to be Changed
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When I know I don’t know, and I embrace and am open to multiple perspectives I have an opportunity to evolve because I am allowing new information into my awareness. We need each other to become who we are meant to be. Multiple perspectives expand us. They help us to experience ways of being that we haven’t known about. This gives us the opportunity to see places where the information we have been holding has been incomplete or inaccurate and allows us to change our hearts and minds.
This creates the healing of relationships as well as social issues.
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Welcoming Everything
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Welcoming everything is an attitude of openness and curiosity — it is an attitude that says, I allow the impulses and energy that want to flow in me and in others with an intention towards consciousness and transformation. It is an attitude that says I will stay, to the best of my ability (and to the limit of what might be my own non-negotiable values), when you show up in your own unique way.
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We welcome knowing that in order to know ourselves and others fully, all feelings, energy, and expressions are necessary to come into the light to be transformed by consciousness and awareness.
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Do No Harm
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We are aware that in spite of our intentions there is always an impacted side and therefore we develop skills that allow us to listen, stay, and change our thoughts and behaviors in places where what we have known until now is not enough. Doing no harm is aspirational. We have to work on this until we die. The edge is to learn to keep listening when we hear of the harm we have done.
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Do Your Part
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This emphasizes that Radical Aliveness leads to action. When we embody the principles, we are necessarily changed and bring our greater awareness and gifts to life.
About Radical Aliveness:
Developed by my teacher Ann Bradney, Radical Aliveness is a somatic, experiential approach to healing and leadership that welcomes the full range of human emotion and experience as pathways to transformation.
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Her Peace Leadership Program in Israel and Palestine brings together Israeli and Palestinian leaders to practice Radical Aliveness in the midst of conflict — staying open to grief, rage, and difference while remembering shared humanity.
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If you’d like to hear more, listen to my podcast conversation with Ann:
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You can expect to...
Bring your real life into the room.
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Stay embodied through discomfort, emotion, and difference.​
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Build your capacity to be both misunderstood and deeply celebrated.​
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Learn more about yourself through relationship.
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Step into your leadership with responsibility and presence.
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Explore your power, values, and wisdom in real time.
Feel more at home in your body and more able to bring your authentic self into the world​.
Hi! I'm Tammy.
I’ve spent my life exploring what it means to be in relationship — untangling the complex dynamics I had with my parents and learning through the beauty and pain of love and friendship. Relationship has become the path through which I’ve come to meet myself.
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My healing journey through complex trauma and disorganized attachment led me into somatics, attachment, and conflict resolution as a spiritual practice. I’ve trained in Radical Aliveness Leadership, Somatic Experiencing (SEP), Dynamic Attachment Repatterning Experience (DARe), Emergent Constellations, Healing the Broken Mother Field, Resonant Language, Ritual Theater, Body Temple Dance, women’s Tantra, Bhakti Yoga, breathwork, Somatic IFS and Eastern and Western mystical traditions.
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Through this work, I’ve come to believe that the most spiritual path we can walk is being fully human — staying present in our bodies, in relationship, and with what's true. I'm passionate about helping others grow in relationship when we learn the skills to stay.