TAMMY KAY CHOW
Somatic Attachment Facilitator
THE MALE GAZE DETOX
How much of your life have you been organizing around being chosen?
Five rituals to find out — and find your way back.
Ritual 1
Male Gaze Audit
Welcome to your Male Gaze Detox.
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This isn't about men.
It's not about making beauty bad or desire wrong.
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It's about something far more intimate.
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It's about the ways the male gaze got inside your body — and has been quietly running the show ever since.
Shaping what you eat, how you move, how you dress, how much space you take up, your career choices, how you spend your money, and how much energy you spend before you even walk out the door.
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Most of us have been living this way for so long, it's become automatic.
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Let's start with a Male Gaze Audit.
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Press Play on the video below:​​
Journaling Questions:
Light a candle and set aside time to free write. Set a timer for 7-10 minutes for each question.
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1. Where do you first remember feeling like your body was being evaluated? What did you learn about yourself from that moment?
2. Where has your sense of beauty been shaped by the patriarchy rather than your own soul? What parts of your beauty feel genuinely yours — and what parts feel like a performance?
3. Think about your daily rituals — getting dressed, doing your hair, preparing to leave the house. Who are you doing them for? How do you know?
4. Where in your life are you spending energy organizing yourself around being attractive, acceptable, or chosen — without having consciously decided to? What has that cost you?
5. What happens in your body when you imagine a beauty that is completely untouched by the male gaze — wild, oceanic, entirely yours? What would it feel like to move through the world from that place?
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Check your inbox tomorrow for your 2nd ritual in the Male Gaze Detox!
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Love,
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Tammy
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