THE ART OF RELATING
Embody more of who you truly are through authentic connection.
3-Month Online Program
with Tammy Chow & Zori Tomova
“Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation.”
- Bell Hooks
This is for you if you're ready to...
Lean into discomfort when conflict, disagreements, and differences arise, so you can heal the relational wounds that get in the way of the love and life you deserve
Re-pattern relational dynamics, so you can move from intellectual understanding to embodied healing and showing up differently in your real life relationships
Allow yourself to be fully seen so you can feel more confident sharing, creating and connecting with whomever you meet
Be brave & bring more of you to your relationships, so you can cultivate a deeper sense of belonging in all aspects of your life
Welcome fear as an opportunity to grow and deepen your inner work rather than a limit to hold you back
Let down your guard, deepen your capacity to give and receive love, and stay open to connection in the face of challenges
Meet others deeply without losing yourself in enmeshment and co-dependent tendencies
What does it mean to re-pattern our relational dynamics?
We all have relational patterns. These are the repeated and consistent ways in which we interact and respond to people with whom we are in relationship. Some of them might be conscious, others might be hidden from our view. Some of them help us open to beautiful experiences of connection. Others contribute to hurting ourselves and others over and over again.
Our light and dark are often two parts of the same coin! For example, if we tend to lose ourselves in others, we might also have the gift of being very good listeners. The intention of this program is to bring more awareness to our relational patterning and heal through the deeper layers of our wounding, so we can bring forth more of ourselves in our real life relationships - including the gifts from the parts of us that used to hurt us and others.
Examples of relational patterns we might explore together:
Fears of rejection, judgement, abandonment, intimacy.
Holding back and not allowing ourselves to be seen.
Anxiety showing up as dominating conversations.
Staying small and fears of being too much.
Trying to be strong at all times, be perfect and hold it all together.
Disconnecting from our embodied experience and losing ourselves in others.
Self-judgement (eg. not being good enough, people-pleasing, dissociating etc.)
Comparison and shame, feeling like something's wrong with us.
Trying to impress or please others.
Overly protecting, or letting in relationships that we know are not good for us.
Allowing fears and insecurities rather than love to dictate our choices.
The Art of Relating Journey
An experiential live group container where we deeply connect with self and other, support the healing of our relational patterns in community, and immerse ourselves in the art of relational leadership
We co-create a space that welcomes us to share our joy and vulnerabilities, our love and fears, our light and dark. We empower ourselves and one another to take the lead of our learning, growth and present moment experience, so we can decondition ourselves from staying small, being too much, and hold our own gravity when relating with others
We guide you through a process of embodied healing of your relational wounds, cultivating deeper courage in relating with ourselves, others, and Spirit. We approach wholeness not as a destination or a state of perfection, but as something that naturally emerges as we choose to meet and reveal the truth of our experience in the present moment.
We create an environment empowering us to connect to and clearly communicate our needs, desires and boundaries. We give space to and honour our instincts instead of overriding our gut feelings to please others. We practice allowing ourselves to be fully seen in our depths among others and staying in connection despite disagreements.
We listen to our bodies in the context of relating, so we can stay connected with others without abandoning ourselves. We align mind, heart and body by watching our relational patterns in real time. We allow new patterns to emerge and integrate, not just as concepts, but in a deeply embodied way that we take with us into real world relationships.
Meeting the Mystery
We commit to meeting the unknown in ourselves and one another. We look to free ourselves from our identities and projections, learn to love ourselves and one another as we truly are and open to our divine nature and fullest potential. In our space, everyone has the right to name their god and bring their flavor of spirituality.
Connection and Belonging
We hold space for deep trauma processing to re-wire your nervous system and relational patterns and open more space for healthy connection. We expand our capacity to deeply see, attune to and meet others, as we deeply see, attune to and meet ourselves in the present moment as the ultimate act of love and belonging.
Upon meeting Tammy I immediately felt her energy, love and vibrancy. One of her videos came across my IG feed and I resonated with one her shares about her childhood relationship with her mom. The universe knew I was in need of deep trauma healing and she was placed in my life. From our first session, she had a loving essence and I felt as if I was talking to a best friend and soul sister who truly sees me for who I am and can relate to me on so many levels. I felt an instant connection with her and have no fear of vulnerability during our sessions. Tammy's presence and support is like no other practitioner I have worked with in the past. I've worked with a few therapist and this is honestly the first time I've come to a revelation of my inner child wounds, need for shadow work and and finding the courage to be my authentic self while feeling abundantly supported. My journey through the dark night of the soul has been an awakening, and without Tammy's guidance I'm not sure I would have braved through some of the worst moments these past few months. She is an incredible human being who holds enormous respect, tenderness and encouragement for everyone she works with.
Meet Your Guides:
Trauma Healing & Soul Alignment Guide
Tammy is a somatic experiencing, attachment, and embodiment practitioner, spiritual alignment guide, artist, and designer.
Her devotion to helping others transform trauma and deepen intimacy is greatly inspired by her lived experience as a child of an alcoholic, and her journey of overcoming the bulimia, body-dysmorphia, severe depression, suicidal ideation, hypervigilance, anxiety, and low self-worth that plagued a third of her life.
Tammy's practice is a result of her transformative healing journey back to self and finding a deep level of connectedness, belonging, and healing in relationships.
Her work weaves together somatics, attachment, and connection to Spirit to help others alchemize trauma, reconnect to their authenticity, and move towards secure attachment in relationship to themselves, Spirit, and the world around them.
Nervous System Regulation
Authentic Relating & Circling Facilitator
Zori is an intuitive coach, cacao & mushroom medicine guardian & shamanic guide based in Guatemala with over 5 years of experience in facilitating authentic relating circles & community.
Her devotion to creating spaces to deepen connection with self and other is inspired by her lived experience of abandoning and losing herself in order to maintain the love of her close ones as a child. It is a pattern she found herself repeating as an adult to the detriment of her work, relationships and social life.
Zori first encountered authentic relating & circling in Bali and immediately felt the deep medicine it was for shifting this. The practice has become much more than that, opening layers of intimacy, vulnerability and beauty in relating she didn't even know existed.
Her work is inspired by Circling Europe and helps you deepen in the art of connection by bringing awareness to your authentic experience, cultivating the courage to express it and the skill to do so with ownership and capacity to stay stay attuned to another. The outcome is a magical dance of presence and truth she can't wait to share with you.
Authentic Relating & Circling
Presence & Surrender
Altered States of Consciousness
Being with the Other in their World
Intuitive Sensing & Energy Work
What you receive:
Tier 1: Group Program
Includes a 30 minute call to make sure we are a fit, plus...
12 Live Group Sessions on Zoom
Held on Saturdays (Jan 27th - Mar 30, 2024) at 9am PST, 11am CST, 12pm ET, 5pm UK, 6pm CET
A weekday-only group can be considered for those who can't make it on weekends.
This course is open to all genders.
5x Live Somatic & Relational Healing Sessions with Tammy for group processing, trauma coaching, attachment re-patterning, and embodied movement to heal from trauma and re-wire your nervous system in a supportive group cohort.
5x Authentic Relating & Circling Sessions with Zori to apply what you’ve learned in a real time relational context, cultivate deeper awareness, embodiment and authenticity in communicating & the skills to create intimacy without abandoning yourself.
1x Intention Setting session with Tammy & Zori to connect with yourself and the others, explore our deeper motivations for this work and let them inform our container.
1x Integration session with Tammy & Zori to reflect on our learnings, impact and support a deeper repatterning of how we show up in relating.
The Art of Relating Community Whatsapp channel to connect with others like you who are opening to healthier ways of relating.
Journaling Prompts to reflect on what you are learning & share between sessions.
Optional placement in a trio or quad for check-ins, accountability, integration & authentic relating practice.
Attachment Alchemy Digital Course
Lifetime Access to Tammy’s Attachment Alchemy Course - Includes 3+ hours of recorded lessons and workbook on everything you need to know about attachment styles, how different attachment styles can help each other in relationships, Non-Violent Communication, and how to use Byron Katie's work as frameworks to heal within relationships.
Tier 2: VIP Program
Includes everything in Tier 1 PLUS...
2 Private Somatic Healing Sessions
1:1 Somatic & Relational Healing Sessions with Tammy for personalized guidance and trauma release to support you specifically on your journey. This time is designed to give you focused attention on your personal blocks.
2 Private Authentic Relating Sessions
1:1 Authentic Relating Sessions with Zori to make space for deep shifts in your relational patterns. We can bring more awareness to what you are already aware you want to work on or trust and open to what emerges and asks to be explored in our shared space.